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5 Things to Figure Out if You Are Single

I read a book awhile back, called The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. It's a great book and I highly recommend it. One of my takeaways from that book was something he said about relationships. He mentioned there was a time in his life where he was single, and he really wanted to find the right person. He knew what he wanted, but he didn't know EXACTLY what he wanted. So he decided to write it all down. He decided to write everything down about her down to how exactly she would look. Then he asked himself something along the lines of “Now who do I have to become to attract this kind of woman?”
The reason I bring up this part of his book, is that a lot of times people date to find “the perfect mate,” but they don't even know what that really is for them. They have some idea, but when they come face to face with someone they want to date, it then gets tricky. They may allow things they may not have thought they'd ever allow because there is this sort of gray ar…
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5 Things to Let Go of During a Pandemic

Your fear During this time, it's easy to get caught up in the what ifs. It's easy to be afraid, because there are so many unknowns right now. But what if, instead, you choose to let go of your fear. You decide that now that you've been through this, you've seen so much more than you ever thought you would. And here you are, still surviving. You're making it through. You will one day be on the other side of this situation, be able to look back and say, “Wow! I got through that.” This is a time to realize what is important in life. It's not about how you look to everyone around you, it's not about keeping up false pretenses and phony fronts. It's about doing what will bring you joy. It's about waking up in the morning happy to be alive. What would you do if the world ended tomorrow? What would you feel you had missed out on? We are never promised any given amount of time. Today is the day to find your happiness. Don't wait around f…

Fear

Recently, I picked up a book again. It's called The Fear Book and it's by Cheri Huber. It's a quick read, but it is so wise. In reading this book, I learned a lot. Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book: “Our world shrinks when we are paralyzed by fear of making mistakes, fear of doing something wrong. But if we simply take a step and see what happens, our world opens a little bit. Then we can take another step. Every step enlarges our view; everything we do shows us something.” (pg 12) I love this quote, it reminds me that the fear of making a mistake is not a good enough reason not to forge ahead. It is a reminder that something can seem scary or hard, but we don't know that until we take that next step to see what happens. I am finding this also helps me with my confidence. At one time, I expected confidence to come from outside sources, then at one point, I expected it to come from inside sources, but lately, I've found that I build confid…

5 Things You Can Do to Have a Better Relationship

Put the other person's needs ahead of your own We live in a society that's kind of an “all about me” place. We are taught to go after what we want, to pursue our dreams and goals, and sometimes, this means leaving other people in the dust. When it comes to our loved one, we need to remember what a huge priority they are. It can be hard at times to agree with and get along with ourselves, much less agree with and get along with another person. However, it's so worth it. If you can stop for a moment, and think about your partner's needs, and at times, put their needs ahead of your own. Especially if your partner is in a tough place. Maybe he or she is depressed, unemployed, sick, or just had surgery. It's good to take good care of yourself, and especially if you are a mom, it's important to do that. Just remember that the relationship you have with your partner is so important. It's what your children will look to when they are growing up and gett…

Top 10 Dating Tips for Women

Be yourself So this is an obvious one. You want to be who you truly are while dating and in a relationship because you want to make sure that the man who is falling for you, is actually falling for you, not some made up version of who you think you should be. Being yourself is so important because you are going to mess up, you are going to have faults, just like everybody else does. But if this person can see those in you, and still have a working relationship anyway, isn't that the best for everybody? The other thing I want to warn though, is, it is good not too reveal too much right away. This isn't about hiding who you are, it's about getting to know, and to trust the other person before you share too much. When you tell your whole life story on the first date, it makes you look like someone who is overly trusting. A complete stranger frankly has not earned the trust it takes for you to share your life stories and secrets. And if you are sharing those things, t…

10 Important Tips for Interviews

Over the years, I've learned quite a few interesting things about interviews and resumes, especially since I've had the privilege to be an interviewer, and I think it's worth sharing here.
Resumes:
Not every employer pays attention to how pretty a resume looks, but many do. I had a friend who wanted me to come work with her; she was helping her manager at the time do interviews. She had me turn in my resume, so I did. However, when she called to ask where my resume was, I told her I had already turned it in. She said, “Well, it must not have looked very good, because they will just throw away the ones that don't look good.” I knew she meant the layout didn't look good, because I had far too much experience for her to mean that my job quality didn't look good. So I did a little research, and re-submitted my resume and got the job. That was several years ago, and one of my first lessons learning that presentation in a resume is pretty important.
If you…

Low Standards=Low Quality of Life

I want to talk about something that is very important. How our standards convert to a high quality, or low quality existence in life. Our minds are very powerful things. They are like computers, and whatever we are inputting, they are outputting. We tell our brain something like-”You're stupid!” And it's going to come up with ways to prove that what was put in, will be the output. Our standards are very important, because in this same way, standards are like a consistent input to our brain. Standards are something we may not even give much thought to, until we see that they are in a bad place. What I mean is that a standard is almost an input to the brain on autopilot. If I believe that my living situation standard should be that I have a 2 bedroom apt, then I'm going to work really hard at getting myself a 2 bedroom apt. But if I reach that level, then I can stop focusing on that situation (outcome) and look at something else. What comes to mind for me is how …