- Your fear
During this time, it's easy to get caught up in the what ifs. It's easy to be afraid, because there are so many unknowns right now. But what if, instead, you choose to let go of your fear. You decide that now that you've been through this, you've seen so much more than you ever thought you would. And here you are, still surviving. You're making it through. You will one day be on the other side of this situation, be able to look back and say, “Wow! I got through that.” This is a time to realize what is important in life. It's not about how you look to everyone around you, it's not about keeping up false pretenses and phony fronts. It's about doing what will bring you joy. It's about waking up in the morning happy to be alive. What would you do if the world ended tomorrow? What would you feel you had missed out on? We are never promised any given amount of time. Today is the day to find your happiness. Don't wait around for it to find you, you must be the one to uncover it.
- Your past
How do you feel about your past? Do you feel pretty good about it? Or do you look back and wish there were things you could change? There can be a lot of regrets in life. We may have made a choice at the time, that we would no longer make. But we were doing what we could at the time, with the information we had then. Don't let that mistake, or regret dictate who you will become. Your past is not who you are. It's who you WERE. Who are you today? Are you proud of that person? Let your past stay in the past. Whatever lessons you learned, whether they were hard lessons you taught yourself, or they were easy lessons you learned from watching someone else, let those lessons help you figure out who you're meant to be. Don't let them punish who you are today. Let go of it. Be free from it. Release the pain of the past. Take a deep breath, let it out, and let it go.
- Your toxic relationships
If you are in a toxic relationship of any kind, whether it be a girlfriend, a friend, a family member. Put some distance in between yourself and this relationship. I guarantee that when you do, you will feel a giant weight lifted off of your shoulders. We aren't meant to bear the burden of toxic people. You can feel the anxiety and discomfort they cause as your stomach gets twisted, and your lungs feel heavy. These types of people need to learn to love. But it doesn't have to be you who teaches them. In fact, if you are not willing to enable their bad behavior, they will have no choice but to straighten up and fly right (or find someone else who will put up with it.)
- Your stuff
Compared to the other items on this list, “stuff” doesn't seem as important. But “stuff” is important. It's a manifestation of everything going on in your life. I have heard this repeated, that a person with a messy house, or a messy car, has a messy mind. It feels like if your mind is full, and overwhelmed, you're going to have a hard time keeping a clean home because you are so busy in your mind, you don't have enough time to do things that need to be done. On the other hand, if you have a messy car, and home, this fills up your mind with all those things that need to be done. That craft you never finished, that rocking chair you meant to re-finish, that dish you were going to super glue together, those photos you keep meaning to frame It causes more chaos for you because it's all these “to dos” right there in front of you, that aren't being done. Let go of the things, and you let go of some of that chaos and overwhelm.
- Habits that aren't serving you
Now is a great time to let go of those habits that aren't serving you, and gain some new habits. It's a lot easier to just replace a bad habit with a good one. Maybe you have a full fat, high sugar latte every morning that you can replace with a green juice that you enjoy just as much. You just don't have the habit of drinking it yet. Maybe you have a habit of sitting on the couch watching TV after work, but you love to dance. Maybe for half an hour after work, you'd really enjoy dancing, if you just made that a habit. It doesn't have to be everything all at once. It's good to start small, but adding good habits and deleting bad habits over time, makes you feel so accomplished. Those “small” things, they add up fast. Sometimes it may not feel worth the effort. But it is. Because really all we have, are those small insignificant things added up, to make up our health, our career, our environment. Just one small thing at a time, causes a snowball effect.
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