No One Can Make You Feel Inferior
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
I was thinking about this quote today,
as I thought about a relationship I was in. I started off feeling
important to this person, feeling like he valued me, he thought I was
beautiful, and enjoyed spending time with me. From that point, it
quickly declined to me feeling like he had no respect for me
whatsoever, and from there got worse. At one point, I was explaining
the story to a friend, said that one of his actions made me “feel
about this big,” and I held up my thumb and finger to about an inch
apart. “And then, this next thing he did, made me feel about this
big,” and I closed that space to about half an inch.
It made me think back about this quote,
and about how I gave this man permission to make me feel inferior.
It made me think about who in my life I want to allow to make me feel
inferior. And the answer is no one. Not one person in my life
deserves the power to make me feel inferior. Now, I do give my close
friends the permission to call me on something. If it was an error I
made in them feeling hurt, then I do feel badly, and I'm okay with
that. But I'm not good with feeling inferior. This to me means that
someone is better than me. That they deserve better treatment, and
more respect. The longer I live on this earth, the more I realize
that we all have something to bring to the table. We all have a
knowledge of something that the next person may not have, and wishes
they did. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and be treated
with respect.
So the next question is, how do I not
allow someone to make me FEEL inferior? It's easier said than done
right? Well, I think the answer lies somewhere in knowing that I
matter, that my feelings are important, and that I have them for a
reason. The answer is working on myself, taking good care of myself,
and loving myself, because no matter how much loved ones might want
to do that for me, they can't. They can love me, but they can't take
care of me, and they can't force me to love myself. If I choose not
to do these things, I can get by, but I can't live my life to the
fullest, because I will spend time with people who do not value me.
I will put myself in situations that are not the best. I will stay
in relationships that are not good for me, because I have not decided
that I deserve better. I write this for you, in hopes that I am
speaking to someone who has felt like I've felt. And if this is you,
I ask you to please, start doing for yourself. Take care of you.
Love you. You might say, well I don't have time for that, I'm so
busy taking care of everybody else. I get that. But don't you want
it to be the BEST version of you taking care of everybody else? And
if there's no one to take care of you, and you aren't around, who
will be there to take care of everybody else? Think about it. Now
is your time. Be grateful for who you are, because there is nobody
else like you on this planet, nor will there ever be. Embrace that.
Love that.
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